A certain female, born a commoner, was a sports school athlete when she was young. She is seven feet tall and has ambitions. He was the host of a famous city TV station. But married to the only self-financed college student in the small town of Jiangnan, who is handsome and sings well, is contented and practical to work in a self-sufficient workshop. The attraction in my youth is naturally the 20 years of departure and conflict.
The girl once worked with an elegant man, and became the first deputy director and writer of the important hall to become a lover. After the beginning of chaos and the end of abandonment, he began to engage in the clothing industry with aesthetic taste for ten years, and wanted to convey his aesthetic taste to consumers through clothing.
Two years of hard work, sleepless day and night, sleepless meals, traveling all the way. Lost all the houses and property.
once again enter the state of mind that is beyond resuscitation. “Just thinking about suicide, and killing.” The three-character classics at every turn, like a river surging endlessly. Finally, I tortured myself to a loss of brilliance. I want to consult a psychiatrist, and I want to take medication to calm myself down.
A man began to persuade.
said: All emotions stem from emotional imbalance caused by inner conflict.
Inner conflict and demand are directly related. There are three main aspects to you: love, career, family and friends.
1. Love is a matter between and her husband.
Regardless of the desire for future achievement, self-positioning, values, aesthetic level, way of thinking, self-cultivation, and the way of external language, there are huge differences between you. It’s not that he is bad, but that you are not the same kind of people. In this way, if he changes and adapts to you, but can’t change; or if you change yourself and give up and adapt to him, it is more uncomfortable than killing you. Another thing is to find a balance point for each other, but it has not been found in the past two decades, and it is estimated that it is too difficult to find. So the last way is to give up. In fact, you already have conclusions and answers in your mind, but you haven’t decided. It is difficult to give up on yourself to adapt to others; it is tiring to let the other party give up on yourself to adapt to yourself, and it takes too much time to find a balance point, so it may not be a good way to decide, but it just requires courage. To give up is sometimes more wise.
2. Career is the support of all your arrogance and self-confidence, and it is also a way to realize your vision for the future. I talked about it some time ago that it is too difficult for you to do good. Find a collaborator, deal with the money thrown away, do nothing else, you need to think about and decide everything. And your husband is the most loyal assistant to you, but unfortunately, nothing can be decided and shared, and even the things you ordered cannot be done by yourself. This cannot be blamed on him. He is a person who is used to working in the workshop and does not know how to collaborate and cooperate.
So you keep reminding, keep teaching and keep blaming him, the result is that he is still who I am. You are not doing a career, you are educating others. When half of the energy is used to educate others and the other third is angry because of the fruitless education, it is too difficult to do a good job. I believe no one can do it well. In the current dilemma, if I can let go of it for a while, I will first rectify my mood and body. It is courage and wisdom, which is worthy of my respect; if I can persist, I will be in awe. Therefore, it is simple to let go of two words, and the difficult is to persist in two words. No matter persisting or letting go, it will not affect your radiance. 3. Family friends, the only way to avoid hurting your friends is to change circles.
Choose friends who can respect others and respect yourself, and you can eliminate all unpleasantness. Otherwise, I would rather endure and enjoy loneliness. Choosing friends can’t choose food–don’t treat friends too enthusiastically because of your loneliness and lack of friends, in the hope of achieving harmony and permanent friendship. Because there are few people in this world who can truly know the gratitude, and there are fewer people who can admit that they are not as good as you appreciate you. A lot of appreciation comes with self-interest. If the self-interest appreciation is removed, to the pure aesthetic state, I am afraid that it is also a gentle friendship.
4. Over, I wish you an early release from the predicament and get real happiness.
The woman said: What you said is too perfect. Whether I advance or retreat, it’s all right. But I still want to commit suicide!
The man replied: Okay. When you really want to commit suicide, be sure to notify me, and I will listen to your last words. But I will be sad if you commit suicide. After all, you are the only female friend I know in this city of 8 million people.