With the advent of the information age, you can work, shop, make friends, and entertain without leaving home. With a computer and a network cable, you can understand the world of Vientiane. The so-called “otaku”, also known as “otaku”, originally refers to those young people who do not leave home, do not trim, do not work, do not socialize, are enthusiastic about animation, video games, etc., and are addicted to the Internet and computer games. Only live in his own world, lack of social skills.
With the development of the times, more IT white-collar workers have joined the “Otaku” family, subverting the old concept. Most of their work is done on the computer, there is no barrier to personality communication, independent thinking, distinct personality, self-sufficiency Self-sufficiency, do not like lingering places, or full-time or soho, but the nature of work determines their reticence, simple life, “house” is suitable for their lifestyle, but this way affects their love process more or less .
How to be able to take care of love at the same time as the “house”, maybe it is the thing that troubles most of it “houseboys”, busy with work, and finally having free time but only want to “house” at home, watching the age It is getting bigger and bigger, seeing everyone spends the next month, you and I, but you can only sigh to the moon, and you only want to find a girl to accompany yourself to talk about Fengyue, but you are helpless because you are usually socially poor. , Suffering from no chance to meet girls.
Some of them are “otakus”. After graduating from college, they have dedicated themselves to work. Others are in love with him and work. Others are falling in love. He is still working. After a few years of hard work, his career has been accomplished and he has lived up to his youth in these years. . Finally, when he didn’t have to work so hard anymore, when he saw his friends holding his girlfriend’s hands and waved in front of him, he realized that he was close to the age of establishment, first he had a career, and then he should start a family, but he said He had a hard time finding a girlfriend after starting a family. Where to find, how to find, who to find?
So, when many IT “otakus” lamented where “spring” is, experts created a love channel for many loveless “otaku” lovers to find their belated spring.
“House” is a way of life, with almost unchanging working methods and regularity of work and rest. Perhaps the posture is low-key and compliant, but it cannot be changed by this way of life into a dull, boring, cowardly person, if enclosed in the world of self The symptoms of social loss syndrome formed over time, not only can not find “spring”, but let yourself be silent in the deepest part of winter, no one knows the cold and warm, no joy to complain. Therefore, it is not the door of the house that it “Otaku” must open first, but its own heart door. Only when the heart door is opened can one go out and others can walk in.
First step: self-confidence
Many “otakus” become introverted because they have been “homes” for a long time, and even they are indifferent. In this way, they are scored negatively in the first impression, so improving self-confidence is the key point. A confident man, when interacting with a girl, will be unpretentious, behave naturally and decently, and leave a good impression. At the same time as being confident, you can better show your strengths and strengths and make the girl unconsciously attracted.
How to improve self-confidence:
1. The most important thing is to identify with yourself first. Only after self-identification will you be recognized by others.
2. Openly accept other people’s opinions and suggestions, and correct their own shortcomings.
3. Be kind to your mistakes and avoid mistakes again and again, and every mistake is a learning experience.
4. Pay attention to the regulation of emotions and maintain an optimistic attitude.
5. There is no need to deliberately change yourself in order to please others. The stronger your ability, the more you can be convinced by others.
6. Don’t be too concerned about the winning and losing of certain things in life. The manifestation of self-worth is not limited to a single aspect.
7. Be a responsible person and actively face the responsibilities and pressures in life, so that you can take control of life in your own hands.
8. The working and living standards set for oneself should be realistic. There is no need to overly demand perfection, nor can one do everything without standards and find the way that suits oneself.
The second step: self-grooming
For it “otaku”, most of the time is working and entertainment on the computer, and often has very low requirements for appearance. Ignoring its own decoration is easy to give the impression of not trimming. Although it is important to dress comfortably, everyone has an aesthetic consciousness. If they do not modify their appearance at all, the girl’s first impression will be greatly reduced.
Strengthen the appearance of the appearance, it is not necessary to be more trendy and fashionable, but to change the style appropriately, dress clean, neat and decent, even if you are not a handsome guy, after such modification, it will leave a good impression on the girl.
External modification is one aspect, and more importantly, internal modification. A person’s temperament can’t be framed even with gorgeous clothing. The temperament is born on the one hand, but also acquired on the other. If you want to be outstanding in temperament, in addition to being well-dressed and speaking well, you must know how to use your strengths, overcome your shortcomings, and constantly improve your knowledge, morality, and self-enrichment, and increase your own personality charm.
The third step: take the initiative to attack
if “otaku” is not active enough in love, no one will take the initiative to knock on the door if you are “home” at home, and tell you: “Hey, I want to know you”, this kind of plot will only happen in movies or TV. , And the probability of this happening in reality is no less than the jackpot in the lottery.
Nowadays information is developed, entertainment life is rich, and there are more and more ways and opportunities to meet girls. If you just don’t like to go out, it’s “otaku”, you can also use your own advantages—“key talk”, well-developed online consultation, various dating sites, and various chat tools, there is always a suitable for you. For the “Otaku” who has a clear purpose and wants to find a girlfriend in a quick way, maybe the dating site is more suitable. Today’s dating site management is standardized and at the same time, it has a large amount of information. To find a girl who is suitable for you according to your own conditions, you only need to fill in your own information and requirements. The website naturally lists the eligible objects, and you don’t have to use chat tools to meet girls frequently. Widely spread the net, but always can not find the right one for himself.
If you are not an “otaku” who is completely out of the house, you can meet various types of girls in travel, group activities, even cinemas, cafes, bars, etc. Shy, take the initiative to say hello, a simple greeting may be the beginning of a relationship.
The fourth step: find her favorite
After finding the girl you like, if you are in love, you will naturally enter the love stage.
Love is like a flower, and it needs sunlight, moisture, and nutrition. If you just put it in a glass cover, don’t take care or take care of it. I am afraid that your love flower will soon wither, and your spring will only Can be short-lived.
Now that you are in love, go out of the “house” door, let the flower of love breathe more fresh air, happily go on a date, create a new circle of friends with your girlfriend, walk out of the closed and boring “house” circle, try more Fresh things, exchange ideas with each other, and cultivate common interests. Love is like a classroom. When two people are constantly blending in, understanding each other and accommodating each other, they can learn better and grow up for the second time.
Abandon the world of one person in the past, it “Otaku” opened the door of the heart, let herself come out, and walked hand in hand with her favorite to the world of the two people, so spring came and the flowers bloomed!