Not long ago, the media reported on a scene in Chengdu where a man cut his throat in public: Facing several hours of persuasion from relatives and friends, the man suddenly wiped his neck with a razor blade, and immediately stained his shirt with blood. Fortunately, the police dealt decisively and avoided a greater tragedy.
After the incident, the man’s father said: “The son and daughter-in-law have always had a good relationship. The daughter-in-law did not go to work before and after childbirth, and the son has recently failed to apply for a job. He often stresses his life and leads to gradual mental disorders.”
In fact, this is a typical postpartum depression. In the past, people always thought that women were prone to depression after childbirth, but more and more studies have proved that postpartum depression is not a “patent” for women. According to a survey in the United States, the proportion of wives suffering from postpartum depression is 14%, while the proportion of husbands suffering from the same disease is 10%, and it is easy to “infect” the wife.
The main causes of postpartum depression in men are: First, due to the lack of adequate psychological preparation for men to give birth to children, the sudden addition of a child will greatly increase family expenses and increase the economic pressure on men. For some low-income earners, it is more likely to cause shocks and keep them in constant worry. Once unemployed, the mental blow to men will be even greater. Second, as a husband, in addition to working to earn money, he has to take care of his wife and children at home. If he does not have enough rest and sleep, he may feel upset and exhausted after a long time. Third, with a child, the wife will generally transfer most of the energy to the child. The husband may have a large psychological gap. Some wives have left the other side sexually after giving birth. The treatment is not good, and it can also cause male emotions. Depression, depression.
Male postpartum depression is difficult to be noticed
Men’s postpartum depression is always dominated by persistent depression, and some will develop from being unhappy to being grieved. In severe cases, psychotic symptoms such as hallucinations and delusions may occur. Generally speaking, if you have at least the following 4 symptoms and the duration of the symptoms is not less than 2 weeks, you can initially diagnose depression.
Low mood, generally characterized by “morning is more important than evening”;
Slow thinking, reduced memory, slow brain response, etc.;
Decreased activity, unwilling to participate in social activities, often happy alone;
often has anxiety and guilt, worrying about increasing the burden on the family;
Sleep disorder, with early wake-up as its typical manifestation;
Mostly have symptoms such as fatigue, heart palpitations, chest tightness, gastrointestinal discomfort, constipation;
Have self-abortion, world-abandonment or suicidal psychology and behavior;
Significant loss of libido.
It is worth mentioning that men’s depression is often not understood, they are more inclined to hide their emotions in front of others, but the depth of their hearts is extremely painful, depressed, sad and sad. This is related to the fact that men are bound by traditional values and are required to play strong and strong roles. However, this kind of “suppression” cannot last forever. Finally, you must find an “export” to vent. This kind of catharsis is often extremely aggressive and destructive, such as being thrown, cursed, drunk, gambling, speeding, or even driving. Suicide or homicide. According to reports, although women are more likely to commit suicide due to depression, the violent or mortality rate of male suicide is much higher than that of women.